Premature Ejaculation and its Effects on Preventing Freakiness in the Sheets
A couple weeks ago we discussed women being freaky in the sheets, but it takes two to tango.
• Men can you handle the freakiness in your woman?
• How long can you last between the sheets?
• Are you a smooth talker, smashing dresser, but a 5 minute wonder in bed?
• Do your mates talk about you years after your encounter with them in the sheets, or the streets, or the beach, in the classroom?
The point I am trying to make here is that men also need to understand that most women love longer sex. If you are able to master the technique and knowledge of the female anatomy to be able to work your woman’s body like a well tuned instrument, she will LOVE it. She will love it to the extreme that she will have multiple orgasms and even have a squirting orgasm (female ejaculation).
Most women love longer sex in order to have an orgasm, five minutes would not do the job. At a bare minimum, 20-30 minutes. That does not necessarily mean 20-30 minutes of hard core penetration, although some men could do that, it means diversifying the sex act—use your fingers and your tongue.
The saying its hard to please a woman is true to some extent, because she not only wants longer sex, but she wants to know that you know what you are doing and you do it well. I know of instances where women have spoken to their friends of amazing sex they have had with their mates. Sex is a skill that has to be developed. Just like someone can learn to ride a bike or a 18-wheeler, the same way the man has to learn how to manipulate the clitoris, the g-spot, various thrusting techniques, and longer sex techniques.
What is pre-mature ejaculation and what causes it?
–Premature ejaculation occurs when a man has an orgasm sooner during intercourse than he or his partner wishes.
–premature ejaculation is more of a mental than physical problem. It all has to do with losing control at some point during sex. Its causes are recognized as a combination of psychological, physiological, and environmental factors. It could be caused by:
–a lack of sexual confidence
–repressive sexual beliefs
–your relationship with your partner
–your general level of health
–an overly high level of sexual arousal
Solutions for Premature Ejaculation
• Get to know your arousal levels
You need to become intimately familiar with your own levels of arousal. You need to understand your body and know when you have reached the point of no return. Once you cross that point, then ejaculation will be the result.
• Gain control of your arousal
You gain control of your arousal by practicing in that way you will increase your stamina to have sex for longer and longer periods.
• Practice proper sex breathing techniques
During sexual intercourse you need to learn to breathe from your diaphragm, inhaling deeply into your lungs rather than using your rib cage and performing shallow breath. Breathing correctly diminishes long held stress and negative emotions which allows you to relax. You will have to forget about the pot on the fire or your boy friends who are waiting for you on the block, or the damn telephone that does not seem to stop ringing, and just focus on the task at hand.
This is also true for women, women tend to have more satisfying orgasms and are quicker to reach orgasm if they breathe deeply.
• Practice PC Muscle Clamping and Exercise
The PC muscles are located below the pelvis and play a critical role in the sexual act. The key is learning how to use the PC muscles well since misuse can result in premature ejaculation. They not only increases control during the sex act, but also increases the erection by causing the penile tissue to stretch. It appears that porn stars use this exercise daily in order to develop the kind of control they have over their erections. It also helps them to squirt their sperm further.
Proper control of your PC muscle also allows you to separate orgasm from ejaculation in that you can reach an orgasm and get a full body and mind experience that lasts for extended period of time rather than at the point of ejaculation. When that happens the woman is able to feel the increased firmness and strength in your penis.
Your PC muscles are what you use if you are trying to stop urination midstream. By squeezing that muscle you will feel your PC muscle contract and your penis moves a bit. By contracting the PC muscle repeatedly during sex heightens arousal and increases blood flow—you should do this in order to maintain erection. On the other hand, a strong PC muscle has the ability to stop the flow of ejaculation.
The pc muscle can clamp down on the urinary and ejaculatory duct causing seminal fluids to be unable to move. If the pc muscle is squeezed and held when nearing the edge where the seminal fluid is about to be pumped out, until the urge to ejaculate is gone, then it can effectively cause a ‘reset’ of sorts of sexual arousal allowing you to continue again. This requires a certain level of experience and finesse which should be practice while masturbating in order to gain familiarity and control.
At first, it’s best to stop and very lightly clamp the pc muscle, stopping sexual movement until the urge to ejaculate subsides. When attempting to achieve multiple orgasms, one would do a hard clamp locking the ejaculate in place. Multiple orgasm is not particularly easy to achieve, so it would be better to practice simply extending orgasm at first, and using a light clamp of the pc muscle to do so. Simply lightly contract the pc muscles before the contractions begin to start that lead to ejaculation. Continue to lightly contract the PC until you feel the urge to ejaculate completely subside.
Having a strong pc muscle makes any PC muscle clamping much more effective.
Conclusion: Overall sex is an incredibly important part of life, and for most men having an unsatisfying sex life can affect their entire life and happiness as well as the spouses.